To ensure my safety, I only accept clients who provide screening details.
Thank you for helping to keep me safe!
Your details are strictly confidential. They will only be revealed in the event of a medical emergency, if you cause me or others intentional physical harm, or if you are endangering yourself or someone else.
If you are concerned about privacy, we can sign a non-disclosure agreement together. Please consider you will also be obtaining some of my personal information, and trust must go both ways. Clients very rarely request an NDA, unless they are high profile or celebrities.
Your privacy is of the utmost concern for me. I utilise the latest technology, suitable to industry practices and safety . Your data is encrypted and stored safely using Tally. All data is stored securely and encrypted - both in transit and at rest. Data is hosted in Europe, away from Australia for your safety. Data is kept for three months (for return clients), unless you request it to be deleted prior.
All data is deleted after three months, unless required prior. Tally does not sell personal data to third parties, nor use it for marketing purposes - or for serving advertisements. Tally also does not use cookie-tracking. More information on Tally data policy can be found here and here.
As Sienna Charles mentions in her blog, this is a constant, exhausting question for independent sex workers. There are so many things to unpack here. Firstly, because sex workers are disproportionately at risk for sexual abuse, we take the time to screen our clients. One way to ensure we are safe is to get their verified name.
This also helps in the event that an assault does take place, because then we have something to actually report. We also screen because it's a surefire way to get rid of hundreds of men who expect dozens of hours of free chats, free services, and ultimately have no intention of booking.
Now let's debunk all the excuses we get:
But I’m a good guy!
Well, how do I know that? How do I know you from any other mug out there? You're a stranger to me when you initially text. How many men turn out to be abusive after you've gotten to know them? Statistically to sex workers- a lot.
But I have a career!
I am interested in good, repeat clients. I don't want to expose you! If I did that, I wouldn't have any work. If you don't get paid, I don't get paid. Do you honestly think that you're the first man with a job that I've seen? My client base includes everyone from embassy staff to government officials, to tradies, to retail managers. It is highly unlikely that your career is something new and special that I would jeopardise for no good reason.
But I have a wife!
If your wife finds out about me, I don't get a return customer. Do you think you're the first married man I've seen? Commercial relationships can be perfect to help meet your needs, in a safe and contained format. However, asking me to risk my life for your privacy fears isn’t acceptable.
But you use a fake name!
Is your job one that society looks down upon as immoral and dirty? Does your job attract the kind of people who would forego social boundaries or stalk? Do you have to lie to people and future employers about your job? If the answer to these questions is "no", then congratulations! You don't need a fake name! Your reason for using a fake name is that you don't want to be “exposed”. But I pointed out above, any legitimate sex worker in the industry will not do that. No clients = no income.
"How can I be sure that you will keep my information safe?"
I'll let you in on a little secret: after we are done with the booking, we basically forget about you. You are, statistically, unremarkable as a person to a sex worker. She's seen a hundred copies of you before, either in bookings or during the enquiry process. She doesn't really care about your information, except to keep it safe because she is a professional, and having it leak would be detrimental to her business. What a sex worker does care about, however, is her own information. So you can be sure that she's keeping everyones info behind the tight walls of her own security. We're not all pretty faces. Sex workers are typically very tech savvy.
The long and short of it really is: just comply with the screening your chosen provider chooses. We are just trying to stay safe out here.
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Identification Check
An ID check does not require a second verification.
These are standard security procedures to keep me safe. Most professional providers ask new clients to verify their identity to attempt to filter out violent men, stalkers, and people who seek to harm and hurt escorts.
I understand many people are hesitant about providing details. But please consider, you’re not the one at risk here - I am. I have taken the time to verify all my details, with thousands of dollars of verified advertising so you can see I’m real.
You however, are a complete stranger to me. I have no idea who you are, you could be anyone with any intention. If you wish to walk in off the street and be anonymous, then perhaps visit a brothel. They exist for this reason. That's why they have CCTV, security guards, managers, and the police at their fingertips. It's just lil' old me here, so surly you can understand my need for safety and security are of utmost importance.
Thank you for helping me stay safe. Those who refuse are essentially asking me to risk physical harm in order to do my job. It’s unfortunate the a few bad apples make this process necessary, but I appreciate you!
Employment Verification Form
An employment check can be used in combination with a second verification.
At no point will your employer be contacted. I generally only need your details to verify that you are a real person. I am not interested in who you are - providers use ID checks to keep themselves safe from assault or murder.
I’m not interested in exposing you. I’m interested in long term, respectful clients. However, having a clients employer details can protect me from blackmail, rape, harassment, stalking, coercion, rape by deception, and kidnapping… which is a real risk to providers.
Please remember you are not the one at risk here. The only event under which your employer will be contacted, is if I have been subjected to physical danger, threats, abuse, or harm.
Provider Reference Form
A provider check can be used in combination with a second verification.
Please note this process can take up to a week. If you’ve seen other workers, they may be able to verify you as a legitimate client. This is the least used reference, and the longest to verify.
A minimum of two professional providers are required. Only reputable and verifiable workers can be used as a reference, this means workers who have verified ads and websites.
Good behaviour is only an indicator. If you have been a perfect gentleman with someone else, your chances of gaining a booking with me increase.
Without details, I have no safety in the event of abuse or harm. This is not commonly utilised, as unfortunately many clients are perfect gentleman to one worker - and abusive to others. Thank you again for helping me stay safe.
Social Media Check
A social media check can be used in combination with a second verification.
Please send a minimum of two links for social media for review. A minimum of one year social accounts is required to filter out fake account and abusive men, who make fraudulent accounts to harm women.
Thank you for your help, in keeping me safe.