I'm currently only accepting new clients who are able to provide screening details to ensure my safety.
Please choose two of the below methods.
It's an easy process, I promise!
Your details are strictly confidential, and will only be revealed under three conditions. In the event of a medical emergency, if you cause me or others intentional physical harm, or if you are endangering yourself or someone else.
If you are concerned about privacy, we can sign a non-disclosure agreement together. Please consider you will also be obtaining some of my personal information, and trust must go both ways. Rarely do clients request an NDA, but it can be sent to you if you are high profile, or require higher levels of assurance - other than mutual trust.
Your other options include paying for my security guard, who charges $200 per hour, all inclusive. Please note, he is only available at select times, and generally requires 24-48 hours notice. Honestly not many clients go to this level unless they have limited knowledge of the sex industry, and are somewhat paranoid. My career is built upon discretion and privacy, but I can't put myself in situations that are not able to be verified as safe. Unfortunately many people who attempt to book sex workers are actually seriously harmful. Thank you for providing screening to keep me safe.
Your privacy is of the utmost concern for me, and I utilise the latest technology that is suitable to my industry and personal practises - according to specific legalistic needs. The data is encrypted and stored via Jotform on servers outside of Australia for a higher level of safety. More information on Jotforms data policy can be found here.
As Sienna Charles mentions in her blog, this is a constant, exhausting question for independent sex workers. There are so many things to unpack here. Firstly, because sex workers are disproportionately at risk for sexual abuse, we take the time to screen our clients. One way to ensure we are safe is to get their verified name.
This also helps in the event that an assault does take place, because then we have something to actually report. We also screen because it's a surefire way to get rid of hundreds of men who expect dozens of hours of free chats, free services, and ultimately have no intention of booking.
Now let's debunk all the excuses we get:
But I’m a good guy!
Well, how do I know that? How do I know you from any other mug out there? You're a stranger to me when you initially text. How many men turn out to be abusive after you've gotten to know them? Statistically to sex workers- a lot.
But I have a career!
I am interested in good, repeat clients. I don't want to expose you! If I did that, I wouldn't have any work. If you don't get paid, I don't get paid. Do you honestly think that you're the first man with a job that I've seen? My client base includes everyone from embassy staff to government officials, to tradies, to retail managers. It is highly unlikely that your career is something new and special that I would jeopardise for no good reason.
But I have a wife!
If your wife finds out about me, I don't get a return customer. Do you think you're the first married man I've seen? Commercial relationships can be perfect to help meet your needs, in a safe and contained format. However, asking me to risk my life for your privacy fears isn’t acceptable.
But you use a fake name
Is your job one that society looks down upon as immoral and dirty? Does your job attract the kind of people who would forego social boundaries or stalk? Do you have to lie to people and future employers about your job? If the answer to these questions is "no", then congratulations! You don't need a fake name! Your reason for using a fake name is that you don't want to be “exposed”. But I pointed out above, any legitimate sex worker in the industry will not do that. No clients = no income.
"How can I be sure that you will keep my information safe?"
I'll let you in on a little secret: after we are done with the booking, we basically forget about you. You are, statistically, unremarkable as a person to a sex worker. She's seen a hundred copies of you before, either in bookings or during the enquiry process. She doesn't really care about your information, except to keep it safe because she is a professional, and having it leak would be detrimental to her business. What a sex worker does care about, however, is her own information. So you can be sure that she's keeping everyones info behind the tight walls of her own security. We're not all pretty faces. Sex workers are typically very tech savvy.
The long and short of it really is: just comply with the screening your chosen provider chooses. We are just trying to stay safe out here.
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Identification Check
This is the easiest and most common form of verification. Most professional providers ask new clients to verify their identity to attempt to filter out violent men, stalkers, and people who seek to harm and hurt escorts. These are standard security procedures to keep me safe.
I understand many people are hesitant about providing details. But please consider, you’re not the one at risk here - I am. I have taken the time to verify all my details, with thousands of dollars of verified advertising so you can see I’m real.
You however, are a complete stranger to me. I have no idea who you are, you could be anyone with any intention. If you wish to walk in off the street and be anonymous, then perhaps visit a brothel. They exist for this reason. That's why they have CCTV, security guards, managers, and the police at their fingertips. It's just lil' old me here, so surly you can understand my need for safety and security are of utmost importance.
If you refuse to comply with safety policies, you’re asking me to put meet you wondering if I’ll be maimed, raped, stalked, or murdered. That’s the reality. So thank you for adhering to security practises to keep me safe.
Employment Verification Form
At no point will your employer be contacted. I generally only need your details to verify you are, in fact, a real person. I seek only to keep myself safe from physical injury or assault.
I’m not interested in exposing you - I’m interested in long term, respectful clients. However, having a clients employer details can protect me from blackmail, rape, harassment, stalking, coercion, rape by deception, and kidnapping… all which do occur to providers.
Please remember you are not the one at risk here. The only event under which your employer will be contacted, is if I have been subjected to physical danger, threats, abuse, or harm.
Provider Reference Form
If you’ve seen other workers, they may be able to verify you as a legitimate client. Please note this process can take up to a week.
A minimum of three providers are required. Only reputable and verifiable workers can be used as a reference, this means workers who have verified ads and websites.This is the least used reference, and the longest to verify.
Most professional providers share safety information. If you have been a perfect gentleman with someone else, your chances of gaining a booking with me increase.
However please be aware this is not commonly utilised, as unfortunately many clients are perfect gentleman to one worker - and abusive to others. Without details, clients are uncontactable in the event of abuse and harm. Thank you again for helping me stay safe.
Social Media Check
A social media check can be used in combination with one of the above. Please note, social media verification will only be accepted if you can be verified as a legitimate person with photo ID evidence.
Please send a minimum of three links for social media for review. A minimum of one year social accounts is required to filter out fake account and abusive men who attempt to see workers to harm them.
Thank you for your help, in keeping me safe.