Tips On Booking A Sex Worker
Better communication equals better sex. Ever wondered why some escorts won’t talk to you about certain topics? Confused about how to make an enquiry? Let’s dive into some of the lived experiences of escorts…
As a sex worker, I’m often heavily discriminated against. And this is important to clients, because if you understand the legal and social constraints of the sex industry, you can understand how to be an amazing client.
Why is this important to you? Well, it’s simple. Quite simply; clients who are informed, respectful, and aware tend to be able to engage better with providers. And that means better sex.
It becomes very difficult to run a business in the sex industry if clients don’t do their research and understand how to engage. It may seem like a tricky business, but it’s actually quite simple to navigate. Most providers put specific templates of how to contact them, and even simple scrips.
Eg: Please contact me with:
Your name
2. What service you want
3. What day
4. Time request
5. Any information I need to know
Instructions from providers may include thing like: “text only” or “phone calls only”. Your paid lover isn’t doing this to be rude - they’re explaining in simple terms how to contact them to keep you both safe and happy. This may be because they are with their family. Or maybe they have a day job and can’t accept phone calls. Some prefer phone calls only, as it’s part of their security requirements. And the simple truth is that if you can’t respect our boundaries for a text, you probably won’t respect them in the room either.
So please make this process easy for everyone, and follow the basic instructions your provider asks.
Better communication equals better sex.
HOT TIPS ON BOOKING A SEX WORKER
1. Research your provider.
You need to know their name, what they offers, when they work, and what their preferred methods of contact is. This is to make your booking process easy, but also to protect you from scams. Fake profiles are easy to pick out, so do your due diligence and actually read the advertisement the provider has placed. Check other platforms, check their twitter, google their number.
2. Do not ask for free pictures.
Don’t ask your provider to “prove” themselves by sending free selfies. This is not only incredibly disrespectful, but a sure fire way to be blocked and banned. Generally pictures are an additional cost, and it also indicates that you haven’t done your research. Personally, I won’t see anyone who asks for pictures as it means they are uneducated in paid sex interactions, and seeing them may put me at risk. It’s also just plain rude, so don’t do it. I spend thousands of dollars on photoshoots so you can see what I look like. My photos are verified with independent platforms, and this is your responsibility to know. Use the information available to you.
3. Don’t ask for services not advertised.
In fact, it’s generally considered disrespectful to ask an escort to provide a list of their services. State by state legislation may prevent the provider from sending any details of acts, particularly when some of those acts are illegal in various jurisdictions. Most advertisements will clearly list what the provider offers. If it’s not listed, this is most likely due to advertising laws in that state. It’s industry standard for clients to send a polite message requesting the services they want, and allow providers to either agree or decline.
4. Respect the booking policy.
Many escorts are working around difficult legal and social situations. It may be a safety policy of a provider to never discuss details via text, as this could be used as incriminating evidence in the event of police interactions. Another provider may have a personal assistant for bookings, and may require you to email. Yet another provider may only accept text bookings due to being around family. So read the advertisement, and respect their specific booking policy.
5. Be aware of legal limitations in the sex industry.
This should be obvious, but it’s important for clients to understand what is legal (and what isn’t). The reality is many workers are operating under unfair and rigid legal conditions that place them disproportionately at risk of harm. Not everyone has the freedom of working in a decriminalised state or territory. If you have no idea what legal system you are operating under, I suggest starting with Juno Mac’s video here, and research the implications of paid sex in your state or country.
5. Do not ask providers to answer incriminating questions.
For example, incalls in South Australia is illegal. That means technically you cannot visit an escort unless they are at a licensed brothel. South Australia operates under the ‘legalised’ system which creates a two tired system of those able to comply with ridiculous and archaic laws that paternalise and govern the sex of consenting adults. How does this impact you? If you’re a client that cannot organise a hotel or have an escort visit your home - you cannot ask a provider outright if they provide illegal incalls. That worker doesn’t know you, and saying ‘yes’ could place them in harm of litigation and imprisonment. Simply tell the provider exactly what you want, and let them agree or disagree.
6. Make a proper booking enquiry.
TO BE REJECTED IN ONE TEXT:
You available??
Hey baby
U available?
You still working?
What's your services
Send pics babe
Can I see you?
Hiiiiii
HOW TO BE BOOKED IN ONE TEXT:
Hello Frankie, my name is Tom. I wanted to enquire into time with you, hopefully tomorrow evening. I'm available anytime between 6pm-9pm. I'd like to book your ninety minute Luxury Girlfriend Experience. Happy to pay a deposit if you need to prove I'm real. Looking forward to hearing from you.